Skip to main content

I just need to vent... and gossip while I'm at it

Yes I know.
No one really wants to talk about gossip.
We just want to gossip with no care.

I grew up learning to gossip with my mom.
It was one of the ways we bonded.
As a teenager I was a pro at gossiping.
That's sad but true.

After having Alex and Olivia I joined a M.O.P.S. group at my hometown church.
And gossip spread like wild fire there.
So I justified the adult gossip as "that's just what women do" or "it's how women bond"
LIES.

The older I've gotten, I must be gaining some wisdom.
As of the past few years I've thought more about gossip.
The heart of it.
If you don't know the heart of gossip is ugly.

For about the past year, this has been one of my biggest
"YOU need to work on this" issues.
There have been plenty of times I've been gossiping with friends
and later felt like complete trash.
Why do I always fall back so easily into gossip.
It's something I have to continually be working on.

What has really helped was this thought God provided me with
"Would you say that if that person was sitting right in front of you?"
That.
And the other thought He has blessed me with when I'm angry or hurt by someone 
instead of gossiping/venting about the person
"PRAY FOR THEM"
Well. Duh.
Why did I need God to whisper that over and over and over and over and over.
That should be pretty much a given, right?! 
Well for a gossip/venting queen not so easy.

But I'm working on it.

Yesterday while reading in Proverbs 29 this verse kicked me in the gut:

11: A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

OUCH!

I love to vent, I have always said we all need to vent, God says otherwise. God instead says come to me all who are weary {Matthew 11:28}. GO TO GOD, not people. They don't need my negativity spewed on them. 

And then today 

Proverbs 30:33 For as churning the milk produces butter and as twisting the nose produces blood so stirring up anger produces strife.

Well don't those two verses go hand in hand.
Don't vent to others because your anger may stir up strife in the other --- towards that person you are venting about or towards you.

One day I was listening to a Francis Chan sermon on YouTube and he talked about how differently God views situations that we do. Venting and gossiping is one of those things. I could have good intentions talking to one of my christian friends that we need to pray for this person because they did this awful thing...and give all the details. When the truth is I can pray for that person without spewing my negativity and my hurt onto the other person. And if in fact I do feel that person needs lots of prayers I can say pray for this person without venting and gossiping.

WORK.IN.PROGRESS.

Comments

  1. Thanks for sharing this, Katie! I'm right here with you :)

    ReplyDelete
  2. wonderful reminder post!!! thanks for sharing your heart!! ♥

    ReplyDelete
  3. this is so wise and a great reminder to us all. Thanks for sharing with such honesty! <3

    ReplyDelete
  4. I love this Katie!! Oh - i am so right with you as well!

    Kacia

    ReplyDelete
  5. Very wise words--thanks for sharing :)

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Influence Link Up

Hello if you don't know me I'm Katie I {obviously} blog here and you can find my instagram & twitter ---> Two things in my bag: 1. My cute little notebooks I found at Target and a variety of pens. I love pens. No seriously, you should see my pen + sharpie box.  2. My phone. I am a HUGE picture taker. I love taking pictures and using all the fun picture apps and posting pictures. If you love taking pictures come find me, we can have some instagram fun!!!  Two things I'm looking forward to: 1. Hugs & coffee with friends. Friends I've never technically met. Friends that I will never forget, that will be hard to leave, that just get me. 2. Learning. Learning more about who I am. About the amazing way God created me as a woman. Learning from all these wise women that live with realness and grace. Being filled with His word. See you in 2-ish weeks!!!

The Influential Women Link Up

Today is the Influential Women Blog Link up. If you are a part of the Influence Network -- get on it!!! Honestly at first I didn't think I would link up, me, influential?! I don't think so. But I am. God uses me daily and will continue to use me.  - - - - - - - - -  Three Things About Myself: 1. I love Taco Night. If you already know me personally you would know this about me. But seriously I love it! And let me tell you I can put some tacos back. Our best friends and us have actually started Taco Tuesday so on Tuesdays we make tacos. Now we're just at a point of trying to make it a healthier Taco Tuesday. 2. I love music so much. I love to dance. I love to sing. I love to be surrounded by music. If you stop by my house there's a 95% chance you will hear music being played. I love Pandora because I can just put on whatever station for the mood I'm in.  Current favorite Pandora stations: Kari Jobe (I don't think that'll ever change), Jerem

Girl Behind The Blog

Its link up time Of all the link ups I've been involved with this is my favorite! Melody // Dance Parties In The Rain Rachael // Kincaid Parade Rachel // Finding Joy Come link up with  Ashley  and  Nadine for this month's Girl Behind The Blog