Years ago I worked at a salon.
It was a perfect fit for my gossipy ways.
I could gossip all day long & it was completely acceptable.
But after working there about a year passed and all the sudden I started having these feelings. I would gossip and then feel gross. What is happening to me. I decided to test it and discovered God was doing a work in me. I started to work on it & soon found out this thing, was a thing for me. Gossip was a yummy, but so very yucky guilty pleasure for me. I started working on it. I shared with my sister in law & a friend how I struggled and how I had been very after gossiping. I began learning about how powerful words are & christian gossip. You know the "we should pray for so & so because they are struggling with this thing you totally should not have shared about them"
And then I got invited to a small group. One of the guidelines was not to share what is being shared. I sat there, thinking, there is no way. I don't think I can do it. I actually felt fearful of my mouth. Knowing my struggle.
But something beautiful has happened. Community. That group. There is a special bond there. I don't have the need to share. There's this beautiful thing that has happened, where before I would burn with these things I knew & it just poured out all over everyone. But this group, it's different, I don't have the burning desire to pour out their secrets. But to keep them in our circle. To keep them in our safe space. To pray for them, instead of talk about what is going on.
This is why I need community. I need them to stretch me, to become more like Him & less like the world. To have that space of trust.
"Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another" Hebrews 10:24-25